Take a few minutes to watch this powerful video from Tony. After you've watched the video, grab your coaching journal and answer the following questions:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
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Can you believe it's almost the final quarter of 2015 already? I can't believe fall is here already. I have to admit, however, I do love the change of the seasons. As we bid summer goodbye, now is the time to take stock of where you are with your 2016 goals. Are you on target? Have you accomplished most of what you set out to do this year already? What have will you do to make sure you finish out the year strong?
This is the time of year when I start encouraging my clients to schedule their own, private Vision Day. Put it on the calendar NOW. Don't wait until the end of December to start thinking about what you are going to make happen for yourself in 2016. You MUST get it on your calendar now. I've heard it way too many times:
For today, your assignment is just to get it on your schedule. In the next few days, I will be posting ideas on making your own Vision Day special. I will also be making your 2016 Goal Planning Workbook available in the next two weeks. Make the final quarter of 2015 your most amazing quarter yet. Finish the year strong, and be ready to go when January 1 hits. On Tuesday, June 30, the world became a darker place. A bright light was extinguished.
I come from a large family. I am the youngest of eight children, but there's a large age difference between me and the rest of my siblings. My oldest brother is nearly eighteen years older than I am. Consequently, I pretty much only grew up with my youngest brother, Clyde, who was only eight years older. There has never been a major event or crisis in my life where he was not there for me. Until now. Because this time, the crisis was losing Clyde. As many of us do with the people we love most, I just took for granted that he would always be there. Clyde adored my sister-in-law, Sandee. At first, I wasn't quite as happy about her. I liked her. But when they announced their engagement at a family barbecue when I was a teenager, I could only think that she was taking my brother away from me! But Sandee stole my heart almost as quickly as she had stolen Clyde's, and it aches for her now, too. As deep as my loss is, Clyde left behind a wife, four children, and seven grandchildren who are devastated by theirs. None of us can imagine our family without Clyde in it. My brother was an extraordinary man. He was the smartest person I have ever known. He delighted in corny jokes and stupid puns. And The Princess Bride. He cared most about people. He was deeply involved with his church and a youth leader for many, many years. He had a special gift for youth. He was like a second father to more kids than I could count. He had a ready smile, a quick wit, and an amazing level of patience and understanding. He loved music. As kids, we would see how long we could carry on a conversation using song lyrics only. Or we would sing along with the radio (I'm dating myself here), turn the volume down and keep singing, then turn it back up and see who had stayed with the song best. Of course, being the little sister, he teased me mercilessly. One time, we were driving to Canada to go camping. And we were being siblings in the back seat of the car, on a road trip. We stopped for gas and he got out to buy a soda. We pulled back out of the gas station and headed down the road. After about twenty minutes, my mom said, "Do you kids have your seat belts fastened? Suzie?" I said yes. "Clyde?"..."Clyde?"..."CLYDE?" No answer. She turned around and saw the empty seat beside me. "WHERE'S CLYDE?" We had driven off without him, and I never said a word. When we got back to the gas station, he was sitting nonchalantly on the curb, drinking his soda. He just shrugged and said, "I knew you'd be back, sooner or later." He forgave me. But he let up on the teasing for the rest of the trip! I could sit and talk with Clyde for hours, late into the night. I could talk to him about anything. He always listened, and he never judged. What I wouldn't give for just one more long conversation. Clyde's last days were spent doing what he loved doing most: enjoying nature and camping with the people he loved most, his family. He had wanted to drive up to Alaska for years, and the whole family had planned this trip for several months. They had a week together before the accident that would end with their motorhome rolling over, and claiming his life. Thankfully, no one else in the family was seriously injured. And if the accident had to take one life, I know my brother would have, without hesitation, stepped forward and said, "Make it mine." His final gift to me was to leave me secure in the knowledge that, if I we were able to have that final conversation, it would end with him saying, "I love you. Take care of my family." His was indeed a life well lived. He loved and helped people any time he could. He was never too busy to help. He touched lives everywhere he went, and so very many people loved him. He will be greatly missed. What could possibly matter more? This video is such a great illustration of how much we operate by habit! I started to comment on it, but I really think you should just watch for yourself. Wow. Can you believe we are fast approaching the end of the first half of 2015? Now is the time to start thinking about how you're going to finish out your year. What have you accomplished so far? Where are you with respect to the goals you set for yourself at the end of 2014? Have you made steady progress, or have you forgotten to even look at them in the last few months? What must you do to stay/get back on track?
*Note: If you are a coaching client, there is a mid-year worksheet available for you on the Client Resources page. Be sure to complete and return to me so I can support you in making the rest of 2015 outstanding! I know this video is a bit long, but I hope you will take the time to watch it. If you have seen it before, I hope you will watch it again. For me, this video really represents a coaching relationship at its best: a committed client and a committed coach. Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans. I love summer! I have a deck that looks out over Puget Sound and both the Cascade and Olympic mountain ranges. I have several small maple trees and enough potted plants and flowers that it feels like sitting in a garden. I have several hummingbird feeders, and I love to watch the little guys battling it out for the nectar. My husband and I love to start our days together with coffee on our deck and end them there with dinner and a good glass of wine.
But when the sun is out and the warm weather hits, it's easy to get distracted and to lose sight of goals. We think, "I'll take care of that tomorrow." Or, "As soon as I get back from vacation..." The truth is, there are distractions and interruptions all year long. January: I'm recovering from Christmas...as soon as I'm done... February: I'm still recovering from Christmas... March: Ooh, I have to get my taxes done... April: Crap, I STILL have to finish my taxes...as soon as they are filed... May: I am recovering from the taxes I didn't know I would have to pay... April: Well, now that spring is here, I have so much work to do around the house... May: The kids are going to be out of school next month... June: Now that the kids are out of school... July: We're going on vacation...as soon as we're back... August: The kids are going back to school next month...as soon as they are back in school... September: Now that the kids are back in school... October: OMG, the holidays are already coming up? November: Right after Thanksgiving... December: As soon as Christmas is over... January: Okay, THIS year I'm going to... Are you prepared for the interruptions? This is not the time to slack off on your coaching or your goals! In fact, it never is. Your life is NOW. Your life IS the distractions and the interruptions. Successful people don't have less of them than you do. They just have clearer outcomes and better strategies. Work hard and play hard. As Tony Robbins says, be outcome focused and purpose driven. Know your most important priorities, have a plan in place to deal with the distractions, and don't let the sun (or the rain, or the snow, or the holidays) keep you from creating the life and business you want. Then go outside and enjoy your dinner! Our words really do have creative power. We speak our reality into existence, consciously and unconsciously. You WILL talk to yourself (go ahead, try not doing it--I dare you!). The real question is whether you will harness the power of your self-talk to create the life you want, or whether you will become a victim to it. Watch this rice experiment, and think about the thoughts you flood your brain with daily. Are you a right jar or a left jar person? Does your language allow you to flourish and grow, or are you withering away in self-doubt, depression, anger, powerlessness? Be conscious of the words you choose daily, including the words that stay in your head. Choose words that make you feel good! Want more? Click here to watch a longer video (45 minutes) about how we affect our reality. |
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"Change your thoughts and you change your world."
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